Christian Living, Parenting

Strong Foundation: Relevancy of Christian Mothering

Mothering has come naturally in this home.

From the onset of the first fluttering of a kick to today’s college drama, my heart is at home, schooling, mentoring, raising the children in the way of the Lord, and praying over my open Bible each day for the Lord’s mercy upon my family.

Years of dedication have brought heartache and tears, and joy and pride to this mama’s heart. Thousands of hours dedicated to schooling driving, laboring over sick children, broken bones, activities, bullies, parenting alone while a husband’s job took him away, juggling family relations, moving homes, and sleepless nights that all seem lost on a selfish world that cares less about selfless deeds of Christian parenting.

I thought I died to self the moment I gave myself over to raising a family. My husband and I agreed for me to stay home when the children were little because of the cost of child care. When our oldest was struggling with her disability as she approached school age, we agreed that homeschooling was best and faith-honoring, so I dove in. Not only did she flourish, all four children did, and they continue to do so.

Being home brought us closer to the Lord, and bonded us as mother and children. We saw that Scripture points to the truth of what my dedication has been to all of these years.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

God didn’t command us to only be available at meals or on weekends. He said to teach diligently at all times. We are not to be passive in our approach but to be vigorous in teaching our children.

2 Timothy 1:7 …for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

We are to be available to show them the right way with love, self-control, and proper role models in the home. You can’t speak out of both sides of your mouth when you’re parenting. Live this way but I’m going to do whatever I like. Get this thing done but I am going to argue or sit around or not be productive because I am the adult.

The idea of career mothering has been attacked over the years. The hostile world has come knocking at my door many times but never more vile than it does today. It is steeped in accusations of a two-person income to blame for rising costs, beautiful homes being out of reach, functioning cars, fully functioning mental health, and happy lifestyles. It has sunk its teeth into our home and wants to rip apart the fabric of faith and the God-directed path that was placed before us upon becoming a family decades ago.

Those who think that a woman detained at home by her little family is doing nothing, think the reverse of what is true. Scarcely can the godly mother quit her home for a place of worship; but dream not that she is lost to the work of the church; far from it, she is doing the best possible service for her Lord. Mothers, the godly training of your offspring is your first and most pressing duty.  -Charles Spurgeon

I, nor anyone else, should ever feel the guilt to keep up with the world and neglect the Lord’s call and abandon our roles to please the demons of self-doubt and delusion. Guilt is a fiend, and he wants to hurt our families. He does a great job at it. But in that, a mother can beat him down and God’s purpose always wins out. Why do we get stuck on being so torn by the outside noise dragging us down and burying us in painful materialism and anxiety?

Fighting back is hard. Sometimes it seems futile and long-suffering. God is long-suffering, too. He waits for us and sometimes we have to hit rock bottom to see the truth shining behind the mud we started getting heaped upon us from society or even from our own families.

It is time to hit our knees more than ever before and fight back. Fight for our families, fight for our marriages, fight for our selves. We need to pray for our churches and that they will support our callings, our homeschool families, and the traditional values that the Bible holds to be true.

5 thoughts on “Strong Foundation: Relevancy of Christian Mothering

  1. I take my hat off to you. What a vocation! Blessings.

  2. How wonderful that you had the opportunity to homeschool! I was able to remain at home with our oldest two. When my husband left the military in order to be at home more with the kiddos, I returned to work part-time for many years. I love being at home, but it was worth having their dad so involved in their lives.

    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth!

  3. May the Lord bless you and your family. I also pray that He would bless and be with those families who have chosen otherwise. May we extend grace not guilt for either choice, but pray blessing.

  4. Mothering just ain’t my thing,
    and maybe it is because
    despite their fluttery evening wing,
    I really do not care for moths.
    They gather ’round the porch-light,
    flitting hither, yon
    and I really have to fight
    not to ingest one.
    I set me up a zapper,
    thought it would work a treat,
    but I guess they read the wrapper,
    and the moths have got it beat,
    so I do not dig motherhood
    though lepidopt’rists say I should.

  5. You are right. Our culture does not value the self-sacrifice of faith based mothers, but it is a great blessing for the family. There is much that is going wrong in our country, for the lack of diligent nurture of children. May God bless you and your family!

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