Oh, regrets, where do I start? I could divulge all of my teen angst and young adult rebellious shenanigans. I could weep over heartaches, deceits and frustrations. Yells of fist-shaking whys could easily slip from my mouth. Regrets, we all have them, but I question if we should.
I just wrote the date March 1, 2018. How are we almost 20 years into the 21st century and still making a stink about childish antics from the 1990s? Regrets shouldn’t be a reflection back, but a nudge forward, away from the lies of yesterday.
I use to live in great regret. Made to feel worse by mentors, I was told I was sinning by feeling grief in those regrets.
- Pull yourself up
- Stop looking back and start living in the now
- Yesterday’s troubles aren’t today’s issues
Yes, I agree, but when you have had grief pounding on your heart for many years, how do you just shrug it all off and move on? How do you forgive yourself, forgive others, and forgive it all without regretting the lack of things? How do you move forward when remembering things that are ugly which haunt the corners of your mind?
The Lord gives us truth upon truth in His Word about the need to confess and believe that He cares for us. We don’t need to walk in a shadow of guilted remorse. Better yet, we can arm ourselves with the Word of God to remind us that we are not condemned if we are in Christ. And for those who still bring us down, we have fighting words of truth under our belts, not pockets full of shame, not any longer.
2 Corinthians 5:17-18 ESV Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation
I may carry some things around once in awhile. I lean towards forgetting the past and only little reminders pop up now and again. Instead of banging my head against a wall of what-ifs, I allow grace to speak. It pours down life rain. The belief that I need to forgive myself no longer sits in the passenger seat. My motto screams truth into the winds of change. I am a child of the king, and I am not condemned by sins. I am in Christ Jesus, and I am free.
Romans 8:1 ESV There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.I am a child of the king, and I am not condemned by sins. I am in Christ Jesus, and I am free. Click To Tweet