Love and Marriage, Love and Relationships

Investment: Do Not Leave Your Helpmate in the Other Room

Investment: an action or process of investing money for profit or material result
Investment: a thing that is worth buying because it may be profitable or useful in the future
Investment: an act of devoting time, effort, or energy to a particular undertaking with an expectation of a worthwhile result
It seems like that no matter which form of investment you choose, you can’t go wrong.

As people, we invest in the future.  We buy stock and cars, we save for a home of our own, we invest money in trips that the camera we invested money in will capture for years to come…

As people, we invest in relationships. No man is an island.  We invest money into gifts, dinners out, fun at movie theaters, and we invest blood, sweat and tears into communications, hugs, love letters, quiet time, and the list goes on.

As we get older in our relationships and advance into the future, we lose track of time as we invest in social media, smart phones, Netflix, video games, or anything else that takes us away from actual touch and communication that happens face-to-face.

Face-to-face investment.

When we don’t invest in our relationships face-to-face, we lose that relationship to a wandering eye, lustful thoughts, covetous hearts, and jaded personalities.  We loose sight of what we were created for: fellowship.

When you get married these things don’t go away. In 2015 there aren’t very many couples who don’t have all the technical gadgets, outlets, and “smart” stuff out there.  Who needs to sit down and talk to each other when you can text each other from across the house?  Who needs to snuggle in front of a movie when you can watch your own flick on iPads in different rooms? Well, you do have different tastes in movies after all…

Sorry, nope.  That’s not how any of this works.  You may think it does, and it seems that is does, but then why all the disconnect and dissatisfaction in this culture?

God created us to worship Him, together, in person… through worship, through our relationships, through fellowship, through song and reading of His Word… together.

From the very beginning He said so!

Genesis 2:18,24
And the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-11 
Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble. And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other. But how can one be warm alone?

Investment! Sure, we invest for ourselves, but that’s in our nature.  The very nature of our created beings says to invest in others.  God invested in Himself by creating Adam as a companion and Eve as Adam’s helpmate.  We were not meant to live alone while our helpmate sits in the other room.

Authentic Intimacy has great resources to help married couples come back together.  This ministry is geared towards women, but all nuggets of wisdom and guidance are meant for the unit.

25 Questions Your Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery is the newest resource that can help answer personal questions you may struggle with that may be what’s keeping you on different sides of the house.  Some questions that Dr. Slattery will answer are the following:

What’s the Big Deal About Sex?
Can I be Single and Sexual?
And I Waited for This?
What do my temptations say about me?
How do I get past my shame?
How do I know he is the one?
How do I compete with porn?
What’s wrong with mommy porn?
How do I rebuild trust after a betrayal?
How do we fight without hurting each other?

…and several others.

This little book can help guide you to a path that you and your helpmate can start walking together.

You can also check out the other books written by Dr. Slattery and her ministry at the following websites:

Other recommended books:
Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a woman’s Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh
Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?by Gary L. Thomas

Don’t be alone in a house shared with another.  Don’t be alone sitting a across the table from your mate.  Don’t be alone in a car filled with loved ones.

Invest… in person.

Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower;
    the righteous man runs into it and is safe.


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